I have been thinking a lot about failure recently and it's effect on forward momentum. I know this statement sounds contradictory but I think with explanation it makes perfect sense. In science when a hypothesis or experiment fails the research is pushed further and new solutions arise from the ashes. People generally hate to fail though which makes us believe that life should somehow work differently and that failure is the end. I hypothesize that if you can manage to fail in the right way you will learn from your mistakes and grow as a person which will in the end be better than succeeding on your first try.
Why would I put so much time and energy into this idea?
In the not too distant past I believed with all my heart and soul that I was on a track to success for the first time in my life. I was married happily, had two great children and was talking about trying for a third. I was an honor's student working towards a degree in education and pulling straight A's. I had the "best" friends, a full social calendar and was truly happy. I believed that short of a few small problems for example, being an overweight smoker, my life was perfect! Then life showed it had a sense of humor. Truly things took such a sharp turn that I was in shock. It seems my perfect marriage was flawed and I had been lulled into denial thus making the baby business close for the season. My schooling and future job prospects? On hold due to the economic instability of the current times. My grades as a result dropped to mostly B's. My social calender cleared as I packed my last friend for relocation and I became depressed smoking again after 3 months, quitting my exercise regimen and eating whatever I wanted.
What did I do? I started researching how to get back on track and started this blog to keep track of lessons learned and progress made. Giving up is boring and lacks forward momentum.
Wish me luck?
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